THE COMPASSIONATE VAMPIRE

     'Christ is coming, and so am I'

                    - Puscifer 'Rev 22:20 Dry Martini Mix'

 He's a big man, in his forties, a project manager for a building firm. His dusty boots and high viz vest are in my porch. He is standing naked in front of me. His eyelids flutter, eyes half closed. His whole body shudders in anticipation. I step towards him, slow and measured, high heeled. I am holding a trouser hanger with large metal clips. The clips are set at the width of his chest. I clamp each clip to each of his nipples. He groans and steadies himself with a hand on the wall. 

Power sheets off him; there is so much of it, it caresses my skin. I can almost see it. He is a man of huge vitality.

I take hold of the trouser hanger and lead him into the bedroom. He is a happy mess and I am a happy vampire. 

By the end of our session, for which the nipple clamping is only the start, he is a different creature. He is relaxed and calm. He is clearer in his thinking. His smile is gentle. I have drained the fuck out of him, and he is the better for it. 

One of my clients said to me 'I would date you, but you would leave me a husk'. A husk! A little Qliphotic reference if he only knew it. I laughed at that. 

In the magical community, vampirism is often considered to be a Bad Thing. Excuse me a minute while I roll on the floor laughing. It is all about ethics. Taking someone's power without consent comes with consequences. All magic comes with consequences. All magic involves power and all magical relationships involve the exchange of power. My project manager did not consent to having his power drained. I didn't say, and by the way, I will drain you. But there are always unpredictable elements in the sexual exchange that you can't consent to beforehand. If I took too much power, or was too rough with it, I would not have repeat clients in my whoring practice. If I misused the power I got there would be consequences. I absolutely don't believe in the law of three or any of that Wiccan stuff. There is no need to gloss this stuff. There are always consequences.

By power I mean something like energy but a bit more positive, something like life force or vital force or mauri (in Maori) or megin (in Old Norse). The channeling of power is a major part of magic of course and in sex power is always manipulated and usually exchanged. It is just that most people don't know that. 

It is a bit of a cliche that men in positions of temporal power are more likely to be submissives or masochists. It seems to be true. I like masochists. I really like masochists. They are usually intelligent and insightful and they generally take good care of themselves. I have said before that anyone in the BDSM world is already ahead of vanilla people in terms of self knowledge. Masochists are my favourites. 

Some people have too much power, especially men. If they don't take good care of it and let some go from time to time, it goes bad on them. I imagine such men can become cruel or violent. A delicious flogging or an exquisite nipple clamping with truly ferocious implements can do wonders for power in a man. It can drain of the excess and keep it all flushed out and freshened up. A serious draining does such men a favour.

After such a session I would have more power, of course. Even outside of frank BDSM sessions, I could end up buzzing with it after a day of whoring. I was a happy little vampire. I then had the responsibility of dealing with it. Used for self care or for helping a distressed client or friend, a bit of extra power is a fine thing. Checking chakras for blockages, making sure everything flows and glows nicely.

If you have too much power, for example after a stonkingly hefty ritual or some brilliant love making or from exercise or music, here are some good ways of letting it go. They are essentially the same techniques as for any grounding. 

Dance. Eat something. (Food is usually wordly, profane or noa [in te reo Maori]). Go on all fours and let power drain into the earth. Walk bare foot in grass or water. Wash your hands. Get a good flogging or some cock and ball torture (lol!). 

And as always, blessings on you, gentle reader.