All sex is magic. Most people don’t know it. The magic flickers, and is gone. This magical stuff, this spark of wild weird energy created by a human act, disappears into the void.
It could be used. It could be harnessed and made into something. Or it could be a stream of power, to be slipped into, ridden, ascended on.
The sex magic classics are almost all written by men, mostly cis het men. Women have written about sacred sex, Tantric approaches to sex, and sex for couples with magical flavour, but seldom about actual sex magic, and even less from a perspective friendly to Left Hand Path practitioners. I have never read a book about sex magic usable for sex workers. While some books on sex magic have a chapter on kink or BDSM, I want ideas about pain, transgression and power interwoven throughout my writing. This blog is written as I look back on an incandescent, antinomian part of my life where I practiced magic and sex work together. My perspective may be unique.
When you are whoring of course you have a lot a sex. That’s a lot of energy. Many wise hookers intuitively understand this. Some of what I am doing here is making explicit what they do anyway. I am advocating for conscious, reflective, wise praxis.
If you’re a sex worker, escort or dominatrix who suspects you are doing magic, you probably are in fact doing magic. You may already know that you’re messing with clients’ heads, that you rely on intuition rather than skill, and that occasionally some weird shit happens. If, while reading this, there are times when you think oh that’s obvious, I already know that, then you are on the right track and so am I. What I aim to do for you is make conscious what you already have as a hunch, enhance your practice, unlock your power as a magician, and keep you safe.
If you’re a magician, witch or sorcerer, who wants to explore sex magic in a practical fashion, this writing is for you. Chances are you have the self awareness and desire to develop yourself beyond the ordinary. But you will need more than that and you probably know it.
I am writing also for people who want to improve their sex lives, through magical means. There are times when I talk about ideas for magic, for sex work and for the bedroom. However, there are caveats.
To practise sex magic you need a spine, and a frontal lobe. For this reason I suggest such a practice is not for those under 25. It is at 25 our frontal lobes are fully developed. You need to be able to take responsibility for your actions, know something of who you are, and have lived a little. You need diabolical nerve and the willingness to transgress moral and aesthetic norms with intelligence and reflection. You also need to be discerning enough not to be captivated by your own glamour.
I cannot guarantee any results and any responsibility is your own. That is not an ethical ‘out’ on my part; it’s just how magic works. You will require your entire emotional and intellectual range to make anything significant happen for you, but when it does happen, be prepared for joys and fears, delights and horrors, and bliss beyond anything in your mundane life. ‘Try this at home’ by all means, but be aware of the consequences. Magic, especially on this crooked and steep path, bites back. Never do anything unless you are willing for it to change you permanently.
As an ex dominatrix and sadist I am friendly to BDSM and fetish play. For anecdotes and practical tips I use my own experiences, and those of sex workers I know. Thus I am talking about cis het women and cis het men, as a rule. I am aware of sex workers from the rainbow community and I hope you can find some relatable content. Trans and gender diverse people traditionally have a particular magical power and I hope if that is you, you too will learn something here. There will be times I will refer to ‘people with vaginas’ or ‘people with prostates’, because that is exactly what I mean.
I have never been a practitioner of tantra as such, so
the sex magic I will discuss will not be based on that careful and holy
discipline. The whores I have known who have claimed to have a tantric practice
usually mean that they pay extra special intuitive attention, are
multi-sensual, or provide a ceremonial atmosphere. Any good whore does that
anyway. Tantra is a lifetime discipline I don’t have.Thus I write more about the western magical tradition, because that is what I know.
I am friendly to Left Hand Path practitioners of all sorts, theistic or atheistic. But I will not any assume any particular knowledge, so if I am talking about things you already know, just skip on. I do.
So I am writing for careful and conscious beginners, as well as the more experienced. If you are curious or merely prurient, read on and be entertained. This stuff may improve your bedroom sex, but it may also change your life.
Blessings on you, gentle reader.
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